Dating a minister
Despite the fact that I'd had five years of Jewish religious education, John knew more about Judaism than I did because his seminary education entailed the study of Judaism, the root of Christianity.
As I learned more about Judaism and Christianity, I was struck by how deeply embedded Christianity was in its Jewish roots.
Although I wasn't aware of positive feelings toward Judaism when I met John (and completely ignored even Yom Kippur as a college student), the taboos from my childhood were just too strong, and my rebellious streak too wide, to buy into the Christianity of the surrounding culture.
I tried to become a Unitarian, but the particular Unitarian church I attended was a little too prim and proper for my 21-year-old self. Finally, in my second year of graduate school, I started attending a Reform temple.
It is a normal, sensible part of intelligently seeking a life-long partner; not evidence of irresponsible fickleness.
If not meeting with someone in his/her own congregation in which mutual ideas are most likely, where else and what better place should a minister look for prospective well-matched partners?
There are places with a much lower likelihood of finding an ideal partner!!
As to the congregation member, there are issues to consider with linking with a minister, too.
Certainly ministers bring no special authority over others to a personal alignment more than any other person.
Like many 20-somethings, my boyfriend is in grad school. To be specific, he'll be an ordained minister in the Presbyterian Church.